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Lesson 7: Why don’t better circumstances make us happier?Why don’t better circumstances make us happier?
In this wireless philosophy video, Laurie Santos (Yale University, The Happiness Lab podcast) examines research explaining why improving our material circumstances usually doesn’t make us significantly happier.
View our happiness learning module and other videos in this series here:
https://www.wi-phi.com/modules/happy/. Created by Gaurav Vazirani.
Video transcript
Hi, I’m Dr. Laurie Santos, professor of psychology and
cognitive science at Yale University, and in this video I’ll discuss research
explaining why improving our circumstances usually doesn’t make us
significantly happier. Most of us think that making
our lives materially better is the key to happiness, but research shows that
assumption is mistaken. As someone who’s always relied
on this approach to happiness, Maya wants to better understand
why it doesn't work so well. Why haven’t Maya’s job promotions, her romantic relationships, or any of her other successes
ever brought her real happiness? Reflecting on her experiences
more carefully gives Maya a clue. She remembers how great it felt when she moved from her grungy studio into her first one-bedroom apartment. She loved setting it up; she loved curling up with a
good book on her plush couch; she loved having friends over
for small dinner parties. It did make her happy for a little while. Before long, though, Maya stopped feeling dazzled every time she
looked at the tall ceilings or fancy stove. The apartment just started to feel
like where she lived. Maya’s guess, then, is that the reason circumstantial improvements
don’t really boost our happiness is because we eventually
just get used to them. Decades of studies on happiness
confirm Maya’s hypothesis. For example, one pair of studies tracked subjects
over 15 years to see how their happiness fluctuated
with certain significant life changes. One of the studies looked at how happiness changed
after people got at least a 50% raise in income. The study found that while people do initially experience
a boost in happiness after this nice income bump, this happiness fades almost entirely
within four years. And according to the second study, the initial happiness boost people
enjoy from getting married is mostly lost after
just two years. Just the way our sense of smell adapts
to fragrances and odors so that they lose intensity after we’ve
been smelling them for a while, our minds also adapt to
improvements and setbacks in life. Our initial happiness or
unhappiness from life changes loses intensity after we’ve been
living with those changes for a while. This is what psychologists call
“hedonic adaptation". Hedonic adaptation is a major reason we have
such a hard time making sustained gains in happiness just by improving our circumstances. Whatever gains we make simply fade
as we get used to the improvements. Another thing that happens
as we reach our material goals is that we start feeling
like our happiness depends on getting
even more. When researchers asked subjects
what income they would need to be happy, people earning $30,000 a year
said they’d need to make $50,000. And what about people earning
$100,000 a year? Were they already satisfied
with their high income? Nope. They also said they needed more. In fact, they said they’d need
$250,000 to be happy. So why do circumstantial improvements paradoxically
make our happiness seem even further out of reach? Well, consider what happened
when Maya got her first big promotion. Yes, she could now afford designer clothes
and a nice one-bedroom apartment. But with greater respect at work came more invitations to socialize
with colleagues higher, sometimes much higher,
up on the corporate ladder. Soon Maya's great new apartment
seemed really modest compared to the fancy lofts
of her colleagues. She started realizing that her
presumably big step up just raised her into the bottom
of her new social group, and that she’d need more, a lot more, to really fit in. Many studies show that the happiness
we get from the things we have largely depends on how those things
compare to other people’s things. Other people are the “reference points”
we use to assess ourselves, so when we see what others have, we think we need it too. Of course, wanting what others can have makes us productive
and can lead to important progress. But whether it makes us happy depends on who we’re using
as our reference points. And it turns out that our minds are very
unreasonable in setting those reference points: we seem to fixate on whoever happens
to show up in our view, without calculating how realistic it is
to imagine ourselves in their shoes. That’s why the more we watch TV, which often shows the lives of wealthy,
successful people, the more unhappy we are
with our own income. And it’s why looking at pictures of
beautiful models in fashion magazines for even a few minutes can lead to notable drops
in our happiness. One of the worst ways our reference points
get messed up in today's culture is our constant use of social media, things like Facebook and Snapchat. As we check out people’s feeds, we see all the fun places
they’re going, all the cool people
they’re hanging out with, and all the awesome things
they’re buying and we start feeling a lot worse
about our own lives. Of course, checking out the posts of people
who don’t seem as cool can have the opposite effect, making us feel somewhat better
about ourselves. But research shows that this
self-esteem boost is smaller than the
drop in self-esteem that comes from looking
at the posts of people who seem cooler than us. And because of this imbalance, it turns out that the more time
we spend on Facebook, the lower our self-esteem is overall. All this research
convinces Maya that she won’t find happiness by just
trying to improve her situation she also needs to make the most
of what she already has. But how can she do that? How do you try to make the most
of what you have?