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Connect: My kind of cool

Activity 6: My kind of cool

Welcome back!

In the previous activities, we learned how overcoming struggle and maintaining a growth mindset can help our brains grow.
At the end of this lesson you will understand two concepts:
  • Many students feel isolated—like an outsider—during times of transition, but strategies like relationship building and environmental adaptation can help
  • Certain strategies can help us develop deeper connections with our peers and our learning, allowing us to get comfortable more quickly

Take a moment to connect this concept to your own life.

Think of some big transitions in your life: starting middle school, starting high school, learning a new subject, moving, changing sports teams, starting a new after school activity, starting a new grade, or some other change unique to your life.
  • How did you feel during this transition? What were some concerns that you had?
  • Is there anything you know now that you didn’t know prior to that transition?

Do I belong here?

Sometimes it's really hard to feel comfortable or to study effectively when you feel like you are the only one who is going through difficult times.
But you're not the only one—it’s actually very common to experience difficulties during transitions. Even people who everyone labels as successful sometimes feel alone or inadequate.
It takes time and patience for most people to form close relationships and to start to feel at home in a new environment.
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You have completed part 1 of 3 for this activity: Connect!

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  • blobby green style avatar for user Treyton Shaffer
    How can I feel like I belong?
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  • old spice man blue style avatar for user Kyle Williams
    The biggest transition is when I went from a teacher who sat with you and talked to you to someone who makes you figure it out. When that person makes you figure it out on your own it prepares you a lot for the real world. When you have someone who is talking to you it's really easy to say "Yea, Uh huh " But when you have to do it on your own its better for you.
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  • blobby green style avatar for user aliciakova7
    When I had to stay here I feel lost in space. How can I adapting in a short time?
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  • blobby green style avatar for user lcorbin001
    being able to like talk in front of a lot of people is my biggest fear
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  • blobby green style avatar for user andrea shegog
    How do you handle conflict through peer communication?
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  • blobby green style avatar for user Daniela426
    In the school, some students feel isolated because they don't make friends maybe because they don’t want, if they don't have connection with no body you can feel alone
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  • aqualine seedling style avatar for user Breanna stambaugh
    starting high school was hard on me because i have a hard time understanding things that others can and i feel bad because i feel like i was being a bother when i wasn't. i realized that it was ok to need help it took me a while but i started asking for help. i know now that its never a bother to ask for help.
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  • male robot johnny style avatar for user 988200
    The big transition that I went through was going to high school. Everything was new and different. It was a big campus and I was not sure how it was going to be. In the end, I look back are realize that it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I learned a lot and made some really good friends.
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  • starky seedling style avatar for user rrodriguez40
    When I went through a major transition I felt lost and confused most of the time. The concerns I had were that I was the only person going through this hard time and there were no one that it can help me.
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  • blobby green style avatar for user crodriguez123
    I felt very nervous in the ransition of grades from 8th to 9th grade.Some concernes tha I had were if i was oing to have clasess with my friends from 8th,was i going to have mean teachers or nice,were the other kids going to be mean to me.I didnt know that mostly every kid that goes to high school feel kind of the same wasy as me.
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